Watch now! “What to Expect When You Tell Someone You’re a Lesbian (Part 2)”

In a continuation of what to expect when you tell someone you’re a lesbian, meet “the bro,” “the best friend” and “the family publicist.”


“Orange is the New Black” Season 2 trailer is hilarious and hot

It’s here! It’s here! Our first real look at Orange is the New Black‘s second season. There’s more Big Boo and Crazy Eyes, but not a ton of Alex.

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Watch Now! “What to Expect: When You Tell Someone You’re a Lesbian”

When you come out as a lesbian, just expect many different reactions from so many different people.

""Can I watch?" jokes are one of the main reasons I find it difficult to form bonds or friendships with heterosexual men. Far too many otherwise decent guys think it’s okay to throw around "You’re cool, because lesbians are hot" or "Wow, your girlfriend? Can I watch? lol" as just general playful banter in an attempt to get a lesbian to like them on a friend level, or to "compliment" her, because HEY, even if men have zero bearing on our romantic lives we still must crave the reminder that they find us sexually desirable.
I can’t be around any person who looks at me and sees my identity as something on a drop-down menu of a porn website. Get yourself to hell, get over lesbians, there is literally nothing here for you."

- dusky felidae 

The real-life "Alex" from "Orange is the New Black" speaks out

Catherine Cleary Wolters begs to differ on a few key points.

For example, while Wolters is very clear on the fact that she and Piper Kerman never got back together romantically, the show is, if anything, downplaying the amount of sex in general that goes on.

“Usually what you would do was have sex in your jail rooms,” she explains. “You’d have sex anywhere you could: the tennis court, the outdoor squash court, or the rake pile. Anyplace! When the guards aren’t around all bets are off. Everyone goes to it!”

The show does seem to be accurate in portraying the she-said/she-said controversies on whether or not Alex ratted Piper out, which Wolters says in real life was more of a mutual and simultaneous thing.

“I named her, she named me, and we all named each other. Fact was, we all thought we were doing the right thing, confessing, getting protection, and saving ourselves from certain death at the hands of a Nigerian drug lord who we knew would soon find we had all been arrested.”

… But Kerman sees things a little differently. In her response, she says,

Before pleading guilty, I received a copy of Cleary’s “proffer,” her official statement to the U.S. Attorney about her crimes—and in her proffer she implicated me for the crime I committed. When I plead guilty I was required to provide my own proffer—I could not possibly have described my crime without mentioning Cleary.

Wolters also says the timeline of her relationship was different than is portrayed in the show, that it was the drug-running that led to romance and not the other way around. (Nevertheless: Not a recommended technique for finding a girlfriend.) Wolter’s follow-up to that statement, that she and Piper were always friends with benefits, and not girlfriends, leads to a painful little moment worthy of the show in Kerman’s response:

If Cleary believes we were never girlfriends, that is startling news to me, though it’s certainly not the first time she has surprised me.

AE EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW: Scout Durwood goes from "A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila" to "Lesbian First Date"

Acclaimed comedienne and burlesque performer Scout Durwood is your next big crush. Not only was she named one of The Huffington Post’s “20 Burlesque Stars to Know,” but she’s a Moth Story Slam Champion and her work has been featured on The Mindy Project. As if being multi-talented weren’t enough this self-identified “full on homo” is also all kinds of hot.

Last week Durwood premiered her “Lesbian First Date” video and we knew we had to chat with her. She talked with us about what makes lesbians mockable, the difference between stand-up and storytelling and her appearance on A Shot At Love.

The Defiant Life of Valerie Solanas

Last Friday, at Bluestockings Bookstore in New York City, the Feminist Press celebrated the publication of the first biography on Valerie Solanas’s life, Valerie Solanas: The Defiant Life of the Woman Who Wrote SCUM (and Shot Andy Warhol). Researched for over 10 years, author Breanne Fahs was interviewed by former Le Tigre member Johanna Fateman about the book’s making, as well as her objectives as the biographer of a woman who remained mysterious most of her life.

Morning Brew - Robin Roberts talks coming out in "Good Housekeeping"

Plus Ellen Page at the MTV Movie Awards and more.

Ellen Page presenting award to Laverne Cox at GLAAD media awards 

The Huddle: Un-Coming Out

Sexuality is a damned hard thing to wrap our minds around, and certainly to agree upon. Very often public figures comment on their own identities and the queer community feels ownership and pride—until those identities change. Anne Heche might be the most infamous when it comes to having dated Ellen DeGeneres and later saying she “changed her mind” about being gay. Just this week, Jessie J took to Twitter to say her own bisexuality was a phase.

While it’s true that celebrities, like anyone else, have the right to their own private life and identities, it’s hard not to be affected by their statements, especially when they echo the kinds of arguments that opponents of equality use against us. So this week’s Huddle is all about that: Was there someone whose reneging on their sexuality particularly disappointed you?