Sexuality is a damned hard thing to wrap our minds around, and certainly to agree upon. Very often public figures comment on their own identities and the queer community feels ownership and pride—until those identities change. Anne Heche might be the most infamous when it comes to having dated Ellen DeGeneres and later saying she “changed her mind” about being gay. Just this week, Jessie J took to Twitter to say her own bisexuality was a phase.
While it’s true that celebrities, like anyone else, have the right to their own private life and identities, it’s hard not to be affected by their statements, especially when they echo the kinds of arguments that opponents of equality use against us. So this week’s Huddle is all about that: Was there someone whose reneging on their sexuality particularly disappointed you?
In a now deleted tweet, Jessie J wrote:
I fancy/date/love men and only men. Is that “straight to the point” enough?
What’s left on the feed, though, is more of an explanation of what she considered a phase.
Remember the thing that you tried/did back in the day. The phase you had? That is so not YOU anymore?! And you look back and think wow how I’ve changed. I would never do that now. Something that you don’t even talk about or want to talk about anymore. Because you’ve moved on? That was just part of you growing up? Discovering yourself and working out what you liked and disliked…. Remember?
I have those too. Yet I’ve noticed some people hold onto mine because they were blogged and put into the media. Fame doesn’t stop people evolving and growing up. Defining me by old news. Sometimes making me feel like I can’t go against something I said 5/6 years ago! Passing comments made into facts that can never change. Guess what? They can change. As they should. And I have changed and grown up ALOT, and that’s allowed. And I feel more comfortable in my own skin now than ever before. We all are on a journey and I refuse to feel boxed and judged because of how I felt once! A long ass time ago. Vegetarians eat meat sometimes. Get it. People change.
Let’s start with some sex! (Do I have your attention?) OK well firstly, Slate says porn for lesbians is uninspiring. Maybe you have some suggestions for her.
On the Game of Thrones Season 4 premiere, we met Ellaria Sand, the bisexual wife of Oberyn Martell, who is also into swinging both ways. We found out immediately that Ellaria is not interested in shy girls (“Timid bores me.”), instead preferring those that can touch their toe to the back of their head. (Seriously.) She’s played by Indira Varma, and I hope to see much more of her.
Advice on clean breaks and new beginnings.
Hi Anna, I have always thought I was a lesbian (or at least bisexual). I’ve had crushes on several girls, but they were all straight. The only lesbians I’ve ever met have already been in a relationship. Because of this, I ended up dating men and marrying a man. We’ve been married for five years, and as time passes I keep feeling that I made a mistake. What do I do? How do you know for sure if you are a lesbian or not?
The Orphan Black PR team is not messing around. As the premiere of Season 2 creeps closer, the buzz about the weird little show gets louder.
This week, Tatiana Maslany made the cover of Entertainment — thrice! EW calls the show “criminally underrated,” but that hopefully won’t be the case for long. They point out that if you’ve seen it, you’re hooked, and if you haven’t, you will be.
They tease the article, saying it explores the beginnings of both the unique show and the passionate fan base. They even talk to Tatiana Maslany about being cast as someone her own age for one of the first times in her career (and many times over, at that).
And if Season 1 wasn’t stressful enough for you, DON’T WORRY. Co-creator John Fawcett promises Season 2 will be even crazier. (And possibly more devastating.)
My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and a half and things could not be going smoother. We love and support each other, my friends like her, my mom likes her, most of her family likes me. The only problem is with her mother. She does not like having a bisexual daughter and likes that we’re together even less (I’m the first girl my girlfriend has dated). If you asked her mother what she thought about LGBTQ people, she would say she’s pro gay rights, pro same-sex marriage, belongs to a very progressive faith community, etc. However, when it comes to my relationship with her daughter, she tells her it’s not real, that she’s only dating me because I “paid her any attention,” that she’ll grow out of it and find a man, and that the only way she can handle this is to pretend it doesn’t exist (she even ignored me when I came to meet the family). It’s putting a strain on their relationship (her mother won’t admit that either) and while I do my best to support my GF, I feel so powerless. Our relationship is only getting more serious and I’d like to at least have a cordial relationship with her whole family, but is there anything I can do?
Clara (played by Giovanna Antonelli) is an unsatisfied housewife married to the unemployed Cadu (Reynaldo Gianecchini). Together they have one son, Ivan, played by Vitor Figueiredo. When Clara meets Marina, a stunning and gifted female photographer (Taina Muller), her life changes forever. Marina’s work is mostly composed of artistic nude pictures of women, which is exactly what my work would focus on if I was a photographer. Living in LA, if you want a girl to take off her clothes, all you have to say is “photoshoot” and le panties drop. Vanity is a many splendored thing. All you need is vanity.
Marina’s go-to line is “nude photographs reveal a woman’s soul,” which is GENIUS, and eventually Marina convinces Clara to pose for her while Lana Del Rey’s “Born To Die” plays in the background. Pure sex. Watching Marina photograph Clara spinning around giddily in silken gowns seriously made my morning. I am thoroughly delighted by these two. FANTASTIC.
What’s become apparent about Shailene, the person, as she’s interviewed more and more and landing magazine covers, is that she is a different kind of Hollywood starlet. From her saying that her religion is “the earth,” to her showing up to events wearing what makes her feel most comfortable (she says she prefers to wear less make-up), Shailene isn’t afraid to be a little different. And now she’s telling The Hollywood Reporter that extends to her personal relationships, and that she is not definitively straight.
“I fall in love with human beings based on who they are,” she tells the magazine, “not based on what they do or what sex they are.”
In what is still causing shockwaves – and more than a few hearts to flutter – we were as surprised as anyone when the CW action series Arrow recently gave us its first lesbian kiss.
In the February 5th episode, Sara Lance (aka Black Canary), played by Caity Lotz, was confronted by fellow League of Assasin member Nyssa al Ghul (Katrina Law) and ordered to return to the villainous fold.