My girlfriend and I have been together for six months. When we went out last weekend, I was talking to one girl I know and my girlfriend was inside socializing with a bunch of people. After a while I went to find her and couldn’t. When I finally tracked her down she was at the bar talking to a cougar. Next thing I know, I look back over and they are kissing.
We had a huge blow up that night about it. I’m hurt and upset about it. She says I shouldn’t be worried about it because it was “nothing” and not her fault the woman kissed her. Of course, our fight was a drunken one and she said some hurtful things about us not having sex enough and me talking to the same girl all night. We’ve talked since the fight but we haven’t talked about it. Is there a good way to address this or let her know that even though it “meant nothing” to her, it hurt me? Or am I being overly sensitive and should just try to let it go?
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