Djuan writes that she has wanted to find the right words to make her statement, but struggled.
For months, I have been contemplating how I would write this post, how I would position it, when would be the right time to post it. Should I make it funny? Should I make it mysterious? Should I make it serious? Should I pick a special date to do it? Should I build some kind of anticipation around it? Hmmm…ain’t nobody got time for that. I have written and re-written and deleted and restarted this post more times than I care to share, and after all of that I have finally realized: “There ain’t nothin’ to it, but to do it.” So, here we go folks…
I am queer.
Good morning! I had a lovely weekend in Washington, D.C. at the LGBT Media Convening. So nice to meet those of you who came out to say hello and I also had the opportunity to go to Phase 1, one of the oldest lesbian bars in the country that is still standing. (Sad but true!)
Let’s get into some trouble now, starting with Miley Cyrus. This time she’s kissing another woman who identifies as something other than straight! Out rapper Brooke Candy was on the receiving end of Miley’s lips in an Instagram photo, because we all know it’s pics or it didn’t happen.
Last week in L.A. a launch party for Annie Leibovitz‘s new book with Vanity Fair and engaged couple Linda Perry and Sara Gilbert came out to celebrate.
So I know there are like a million other people who struggle with coming out, but I need to tell my dad I’m bisexual. He’s the only important person in my life left to tell, and his is the reaction I’m most worried about. I wanted to wait until I knew for sure if I was gay or bi (actually this article of yours helped me figure it out). I know people say not to worry about labels, but he wouldn’t understand without one, so I wanted to be sure. Now that I know, there’s nothing stopping me from telling him. My mom knows and is 100% supportive (I knew she would be cuz she has two gay siblings), but I feel bad making her keep this secret from my dad. He’s asked her a couple of times if I’m gay and she had to lie. She said she didn’t know and if I was would it matter, and he ignored her question completely. Just didn’t answer her. He asked me once if “I was thinking about going that way” but that was months ago when I was still confused. I’ve been waiting for another opportunity like that but none have come, so I guess what I want to know is how to bring this up to him on my own?
I had a dream about Ellen Page last week, which I do not need to tell you about other than she appeared. I’m from the Joan Didion school of thought that other people’s dreams are, for the most part, boring, but besides that, I can only remember that she was there. Then the news that Julianne Moore would join her in the upcoming movie Freeheld came out on Thursday, news I’ve been searching my newsfeed for anxiously since the project was announced three years ago, and even more fervently since word came an “Academy-Award winning actress” had been sent the script with interest in the role. That was good enough for me; reason enough to believe that somehow I had intuited some kind of great news about actresses I like and a film I’ve been waiting for.
On Friday night when I saw that Ellen Page had come out during an HRC conference, I was driving to Seattle from my house in Portland. I was already late for dinner plans with friends so I couldn’t watch the speech until later that night, but I thought about Ellen a lot before I could see what she’d said. Since I watched her eight minute speech, I have not been able to get her out of my head.
Plus a “PLL” producer on tonight’s Paily’s noir romance and more!
Nine years ago, we began handing out yearly Visibility Awards to the actresses, characters, movies, and TV personalities that promoted positive visibility for gay and bi women. Last year, The AfterEllen Visibility logged nearly one million votes. Now it’s finally time to open the door for you to nominate your favorites for 2013. You can click on each category and leave your nominations in the comments section of the individual posts. Voting will be open until Sunday, December 15th and on Monday, December 16th, we’ll announce the official nominees for each category and you can begin campaigning for your favorites.
Bello describes her partner as Clare, a woman she calls her best friend who she met while she was “sitting in a bar wearing a fedora and speaking in her Zimbabwean accent.” The two were friends first, then they went through a “long, painful, wonderful process of trying to figure out what our relationship was supposed to be.” So that finally solves the mystery of what Bello’s fedora in Prime Suspect was all about.
Happy National Coming Out Day!