The only thing I’m trying to tell people in my comic is about my own personal journey through the fluidity that my personal sexuality has undergone. Some people read it and think I am trying to command everyone to go through the exact same process or conform to my exact identity that I’ve portrayed in my work. But that couldn’t be further from the truth! If someone really wanted to force a message onto DAR, I would prefer that it be “Love and happiness trumps everything else” — gender, identity, sexuality, labels, relationships, communities, etc. In my eyes, none of that is necessarily permanent. Find what makes you happy, even if it means giving up something that was important to you but no longer fits you just right.
This reminded me of the piece Ariel Schrag wrote about DAR! for AfterEllen, and all of the comments it received.